If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen? And this commandment we have from Him: that he who loves God must love his brother also.
1 John 4:20-21
It is a real hypocrisy to say that we love God while we tried our neighbor with the toe. And sometimes that neighbor is a member of our own family. Sometimes we deal with a lot of love to those who carry our blood while trying to disdain others, including fellow believers. How do we seek to love God if we ignore those around us? Certainly, God is real, He exists and we must love Him with all our being; but that love is best demonstrated when we love our fellowmen.
Biblical texts as 1 John 4:20-21 confront us. There will be people who will try to deny hating his brother. They may say they have a very beautiful feeling toward all people and take them deep within their heart. They may say they always remember the important dates of them and give them gifts or surprise them in some detail. And all this may seem good; but the Bible makes loving as a commandment, therefore, if something is ordered, it means that we have decision about this, which excludes it from being classified as a feeling.
The best way to evaluate whether or not we are fulfilling the commandment to love others is to measure ourselves with the biblical standard. The biblical definition of love is in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7: Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Consider how much you love others. Do you suffer for love or just love because you want to be happy? Does your love make others suffer? Do you see how envious love others more than they love you? You walk boasting love others while your actions say otherwise? Can you smoke rise to the head by saying profess love for others? Have you done things undue in the name of love? Do you love just because you’ll turn a profit? Do you get angry with someone you love and then you do not want to forgive him or her?
The first question is answered with one of the two alternatives; the others are answered with a yes or a no. If you answered yes to any of them or chose the second alternative in the first question, then you have failed the test of love according to the biblical standard. But you must continue to evaluate the quality of your love with the rest of what it says 1 Corinthians, chapter 13.
Remember that the Bible states that love does not rejoice in injustice, but with truth. Assesses whether what you call love have ever built on lies or have not acted with justice in the name of love but you’ve inclined to defend what lacks some reason while damaging the other. If you weigh suffer all for love, if you do not believe in what they tell you, if hates to wait and endure, then you failed.
Do not wait for you to leave the heart to love others the way that says 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. The issue is not because you feel it or not. If love is a commandment, you decide if you do or not. Do not do it because the other deserves, but do it in obedience. God bless you.